SoMe AmaZing TiPs on RELaTioNsHiPS

• Keep the conversation flowing. It's not all about I love you baby and I love you too sweetie or even what do you like about me!! Being in a relationship doesn't mean lovers all the time it could be friends too so you gotta have your "friend" talk too, talking about random things, debate, whatever the topic so long as it not about love, love, lurveee. 
• Not all about take, take, take in a relationship. It's about giving too. It could be making a dinner or buying your lover a small gift or even telling how much you love your lover and mean it of course! Giving in a relationship can go a longggggggg way!
• Space (personal). Everyone gotta have his/her own personal space and not wanting it invaded. This includes spending time with friends, family or whatever (not telling you to shag another person!) but just chilling out and having a laugh! But do not let it be too much.
• Honesty. You've got to be very honest and be very open in a relationship. There is no point hiding things because the truth would eventually come out and can wreck a relationship. This doesn't mean telling your life story or everything you did at night with porn. I've seen couples suffer in silence only because of keeping things inside them when it would have been wayyy resolved if it had been shared. It's just simple honesty.
• Trust. It is important to trust your partner else what is a relationship without trust? Living everyday on suspicion and wondering if the other is lying to you or what he/she is doing? Not worth it. It is the honesty described previously that would lead to one trusting the other.
• Respect. If there is respect in a relationship, a lot of things would be avoided. A man that respects himself and women would not have the audacity, the urge and zeal to hit a woman. It is very important to be respectful towards one another, else it would not work.
• Enjoying the "Now". People think so much about their relationship literally like the future ohhh I wanna have 3 kids etc. It gets your hope way too high. Not saying it's bad to think about the future, infact it is important and necessary but do not forget the present. Do not live for the future at the cost of your present. The past is also another hindrance and honestly there isn't any point because the past doesn't define you, it is an experience and everybody makes mistakes. Love like you've never been hurt but be cautious too!
• Intimacy/Romance. This is important and I'm not necessarily talking about only sex though important but things that can also help spark a relationship. Planning romantic trips, surprising each other, looking appetizing for each other and yes men I am also talking to you; looking well groomed, maintaining a sex-worthy body, wink, wink, wink not just the women in their lingerie, going on dates, even just a walk down to the park/street could do the trick and then some good love making.
• Sacrifice is another important factor. Every once in a while, it's good to make sacrifices, for example, I had a sweetheart who came all the way from another State to see me off leaving the country.It was pretty hectic but the sacrifice was worth it. it made me really feel important and special :)
• Attraction. It is necessary to be physically and sexually attracted to your partner. being with someone just because he or she is nice is not enough. In the long run, it would affect the relationship. i mean, how can you stay with someone you do not find attractive or cannot even lay on the same bed with?!
• Accepting your lover just the way he or she is (VERY IMPORTANT). I don't like his looks, he;s too short, her boobs are small, she's too fat and the list goes on and on honestly we don't like "everything" about anyone but you'll need to find something(s) that you do like and let that outshine the things you do not like. Try to find physical things as well as personality because  as you keep seeing the same old person again, you will find something new and it could something that you like if you look properly.

Nice guys- Do they really finish last for just being too nice?

Who are these nice guys that seem to be overlooked and rejected? Are they the shy, more like a brother because they don't come too sexual, quiet guy? Are they really rejected for just being too nice? let's find out.


I've read a few articles stating that women are mostly and supposed to be attracted to the macho tough guys aka bad boys leaving out the "nice guys".Both men and women refer to these nice guys as boring, lacking passion, too goody shoes and lacking challenge. I agree as a woman, I don't want a yes man, one who would tell me yes even when I'm wrong but does that mean I'm seeking the bad guys out? Don't think so.


An aunt once told me, the only reason girls avoid nice guys is because they seem to lack passion. Then, she proceeded to somewhat traumatize me with the story of the bad boy in her youth who made her heart hammer when he cornered her for kisses and ran his hands up her blouse. When he left her for a girl with a shorter skirt, she went ahead and accepted the proposal of my seemingly shy Uncle. "BEST night I ever had," she recalled with a grin, telling me the story. "I knew he was a giver but-" And I think I ran from the room at that point.


People mostly the women should learn to differentiate the word "Nice" and "Dull/boring". A nice guy is not necessarily boring. What a women really wants is a guy who would treat them very well without losing his appeal and edge.


I would also add guys who are flavorless and lack passion are more quick to be judgmental towards the women going leaving the nice guys out and blaming them if they get heartbroken in order to cover their own lack of passion. Nice guys don't finish last, wusses and guys who won't compete do. That's not "nice", that's just failure through lack of effort. C'mon guys, you can be very sweet and also passionate, doing things to add spark to the relationship and not just monotonous being nice.


I don't know about the women that go for the bad boys (those that beat, rough etc) but I love me some nice guys (caring, sweet, spontaneous, being a man-knowing when to say no to something wrong, passionate) which I know women love and prefer.

Choose wisely ladies and men step your game up! In the long run, nice guys never finish last.